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We can get by without a free Inner Child; we can make it through without a healed Inner child, but we will be missing out on a level of joy, creativity and intimacy. The thesis of this book is that healing and freedom of your Inner Child is necessary to really enjoy life, love and God.
Introducing Inner Healing of Your Inner Child
Therapists learn that the language of children is play. Children relate to God in action. Children relate to God as being like a real person they know. Children relate to real experience more than words about experience. They learn be doing.
That means that healing a child’s memories and emotions will be mediated through play, drama, action more than words. Their memories are of real concrete experiences more than the thoughts about the experience.
Children, therefore, live in a different world entirely than adults. Adults can live completely in a verbal and intellectual world of words, thoughts and ideas. Children can't and don’t.
When we express ourselves to children in abstract thought, they often miss our meaning. A young child notices an building inspector talking to dad as they move around the house. The child overhears the inspector telling dad ‘You have bad ducts in this house.’ Child becomes anxious about the report that there were bad ducks in the house. Nobody understands why the child became anxious.
Children can experience inner healing if we can enter their life and work with them there. This means there are less words in the healing prayer and more remembering real memories or imagining the real presence of Jesus in their life.
If you are a parent you have real children separate from you as well as your own inner child present in your childhood memories. This is true whether or not you remember your childhood. Your emotional brain still remembers and directs your life more than you think. Jesus knew this when, using the biblical term for the emotional brain - the heart, he said the heart is the source of our attitudes and sins.
Please allow Jesus complete freedom in healing your inner child or your actual child. Anything goes. Don’t try to limit or script Jesus. If Jesus takes a memory in a different direction, allow Him to do that.
An woman feared that something bad happened in her childhood when, as a little girl walking home from school, she was invited into a car with a man. She did get into the car but has no memory after that. When Jesus was with her he revised the memory. This time, with Jesus, she did not get into the car. I checked to see if the burden around that memory had lifted and it had.
What I mean is, If Jesus wants to take this memory in a different direction, let Him. If the little girl does not get into the car when Jesus is there, that is quite ok. Don’t fight what Jesus does even if the replay of the event goes in a different direction. Jesus is Lord - meaning in charge of the process.
What I mean is, if Jesus wants to completely change a memory, let Him. It is okay. If you don’t understand it. It is okay. If Jesus acts like the Lord of Time. It is okay. If Jesus changes the memory then that is the ‘healing’ of the memory. Don’t fight it.
All this is saying that Healing of the Inner Child is a whole new experience in a whole new territory. Relax and enjoy.
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