There are many times that anger is dangerous to our emotional and spiritual health.The energy of resentment, hate and the intention of getting revenge are almost always negative to ourselves and others – an unhealthy energy. But there are exceptions.
There are times when anger is healthy, helpful and holy.That is when it is the energy given to us to motivate us to speak up and speak truth. When it is God’s truth spoken we can call that righteous anger.This energy gets us in motion to confront issues by talking about them rather than gossiping about them or sulking.
The Campfire is a safe place to express anger and to confront one that a child may never have been able to confront.My finding is that providing an expression of angry thoughts toward a parent or an abuser helps bring closure to a wound.It helps empower the victim.It breaks through restrictions and warnings that blocked talking about the abuse. It is an essential part of inner healing.
A woman came to me with suspicions that she had been sexually abused in childhood.She did not have clear enough memories to affirm or deny sexual abuse but she had reasons to suspect it.
We pursued inner healing with great care.We were careful not to make assumptions or direct the process.The sessions seemed to confirm that she had been sexually abused and someone, identified as a farm hand, seemed to be responsible.Toward the end of the healing process, Karen (we will call her) felt that everything was finished except she really wanted to confront the man and express her mind at him.He was by now deceased but we were able to do an imagined encounter where she did express her heart and get resolution.
This is one example where the Campfire would be helpful for inner healing.The final step for Karen was to express her anger at the abuser, to direct her words at him and rebuke him.God allowed this to be a very meaningful encounter.
What is the Campfire? The campfire is a holy place filled with the light of God and radiated with His loving presence where people can be confronted by the Inner Child and people can respond from their best selves because of God’s presence.
Jesus is always present.Jesus present helps make The Campfire a safe place.Jesus can also handle questions and confrontations from the Inner Child.
As at other times in Listening Prayer Therapy, Jesus can be asked for God’s perspective – His truth and light – on a situation.
Usually Jesus and the Inner Child are sitting together and across from them is the one the child needs to confront.This other one is sometimes a parent and sometimes it is an abuser, as in Karen’s Prayer Therapy.